Blackout

Electricity is one thing that you don't realize how much you rely on it until you don't have it. A friend was complaining there was thunder over at her place and electricity was out for awhile. That reminds me one morning I woke up and electricity was out in my building. At least it is good that it was in the morning and I could still see what I was doing. Sitting at home and having nothing to do (no TV, no radio, no internet, no food, no nothing!!!) I decided to go out instead. I first had to take a cold shower and fix myself up in the dark (well, not that dark) Since I wasn't sure if I could get my car out (because of the garage door) I brought my backpack to bring a bunch of stuff in case I have to take a bus to get away from this lack of electricity area. For some reason I could still turn on my alarm (they must be using their own power source??!!) The hallway had very dim light and I had to walk very slow. When I got to the stairwell, I decided to turn back to get extra light source. The stairwell has absolutely no light at all, not even a backup one. And I wasn't ready to fall on the stairs in the dark. Good that my mom planned ahead and forced me to have a flash light at home. So I went back to grab my flash light and started my adventure again: to wander around my building in the dark. I finally got downstairs onto the first floor. Now I started worried that I can't get back into the building because the main gate used a key card to open. Good that again it used a separate power source. (I actually hold the door opened and tried the scanner and see if I heard a "beep" sound) Now the most exciting part, whether I could actually get my car out. When I walked down to the garage and saw all the gates actually up, I was sooooo happy!!! I quickly got to my car and ran away from this place!

Nice?!

A friend talked about definition of a nice person in her blog several days ago. I actually never gave deep thought on it until then. I would normally consider myself a nice person. Why wouldn't I be? I care about my friends. I am friendly (well, most of the time anyway) and pleasant (when I am not tortured at work) But like my friend said, does that really make me a nice person? When I am nice to my friend, do I really not expecting anything in return? Or I am nice to them because I want them to like me? If that is the case, am I just being selfish? I used to think that I could I put more effort into a friendship and don't expect the other person to do the same. I understood you can't really tally who is giving more in a friendship and I am just doing what I want to do: to care for my friends. Not until later when I need my friend 's help and got rejected, then I know I was expecting something more. It was never a one way. Though I understand my friend is that kind of person, I can't forgive my friend for being so selfish and not helpful. If I am as nice as I think I am, I shouldn't expect my friend to help me in return. If I do expect something from my friends, then all this times am I really just keeping tab with my friends so they can return favor in future?

Yet Another Year Older

Well, everybody knows anyway, it is my birthday today. A friend asked me if I am happy for my birthday. I really don't know how to answer. I am not excited like a kid anymore when I have my birthday. It is actually kind of sad to grow old (and people around you keep reminding you indeed are old) But I sure am happy to have so many friends with me on my birthday. For me, birthday becomes an excuse for my friends to gather for dinner and a reminder how much I already have. I surely feel blessed to have so many friends. There is no crazy partying and heavy drinking this year. I just want a small and cozy gathering with my friends. When one of my friend asked where to eat, I said I don't even mind to eat at his place. I just want to chat with my friends in a relaxed environment. His wife end up making us dinner (she never cooked for us before so we were risking our lives......hehehehe) and end up cutting her finger. And I got a lot of calls and text messages from friends today. What make me happiest is my brother called tonight. I was sort of expecting him call me last night cause he usually called at mid-night to wish my happy birthday and make sure I am safe and not drunk (that is only because he got drunk on all his birthdays and thought that I would do the same thing!...soooo not!) But I am still very happy to hear from him and we chatted for a bit. Things hasn't been very smooth for him lately in HK but I know he will get thru. And thanks to my best friend, most of my birthday present are wine related. I got a wine opener, a set of crystal wine glasses and a wine stopper. I think she really helped strengthen my alcoholics image. Hehehe..I think I really need to think of a way to change my image.

PS. Since my birthday is actually on the same day as mid-autumn festival this year, my friend decided to use a moon cake as my birthday cake. That is because some DUMB people think it is a "funny" idea. I am sorry, but that is not new. You guys did it before, but you probably don't remember cause you are OLDER than me. WAHAHAHAHAH!

Travel Plan

A friend and I are going to Montreal next week to meet up with another friend and then 3 of us will go to Quebec city together for a weekend. Since I never traveled with these friends before, I tried to be more organize. I am scared they will kill me. My friends who always travel with me know how "off" I can be on vacation. Last time when I went visit my friend in England, she gave me her cell phone to find me. And everytime she called, I was lost. I sort of know where I need to go, and then I let myself wander off. It is all part of travel experience. Besides, I am on vacation. I don't really need to turn on my brain. I could take out my map and look for my way, but I am not in a hurry, I may as well just enjoy wherever my legs take me. I already booked the train and the accommodation to stayed in Quebec. I don't know how dynamic they could be. I was almost sure they would kill me if we find accommodation after we got off the train. In order to stay alive, I would rather do some more work before my precious holiday. I figure I could leave the dynamic part later in my trip. Personally I like finding a place to stay when I arrived, so I can know what area I am staying in, how clean the place is, and what sort of people staying there. But oh well, it could be for a change. The friend traveling with me worried about me being stressed out on planning cause she knew I usually don't plan much. My most organized planning is done on plane. I will quickly flip thru where I should go and then ignore it till I got off and found a tourist centre. I will decide after I arrived. Usually it was because I worked till the last min before I leave so I don't have much time before my trip to plan. My ex-traveling buddy used to do all the planning cause playing is always top priority for her. She could do all the planning and I just brought my body over to the place and go wherever she wanted to go (and I usually don't care much anyway) Now that she is all married and not available, I guess I have to find time to slack and do some planning myself :(

Last Wedding of the Year

Finally attended last wedding of the year. My wallet can finally rest till next year (may be the year after cause I haven't heard anyone planning to get married next year yet..wheeeeee!!) This wedding is actually a bit different than the rest I went this year. First, it is not Chinese. So everything is a bit different. This is a wedding I was the only Asian in church till the groom's family came. I almost felt a bit uneasy and wasn't sure I went to the right wedding. But I did see his picture on the reception table. Though it is like the 3rd time I heard the passage 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy...) I still felt very touched in this wedding. This is actually the second wedding I want to cry. Everything is very simple, but I can see my friend is very happy. And I am really happy for him. The dinner is a buffet style. It is more quiet compared to the rowdiness in Chinese wedding. Chinese wedding is all about games and noise. Western wedding seem more loving and warmth. I really like his groommen's speech. It is very touching (though I totally disagree, the groom is so not trustworthy, dependable, loving, caring person!!! :P) Though I didn't fool around a lot, I like it being simple and touching.

Judged

Had a discussion tonight at fellowship about struggle. One of my struggle is scared to be judged. I am pretty sure that a lot of my behavior doesn't qualify as Christian-like. I felt defensive if someone told me what I did wrong. I would think, "Hey, you are no better than me, don't point your finger at me, mind your own business". A friend once told me I would accept other pointing at my wrong doing if I respect the person and trust the person's opinion. If a random stranger walked up to me and told me what I did wrong as Christian, I would totally feel offended. I felt my friend's church is more conservative and while helping him out at his wedding, I always wonder what do they think of me? I almost regret telling them that I go to church cause they may have certain standard to judge me? If they think I am non-Christian, may be they have another standard. That is another thing I told my friend I don't like about our discussion. Cause there are too many times we said we Christian don't do that, whereas non-Christian would do that. I know most of the times Christians don't think they are better, in fact they just acknowledge the fact that they are sinners as well. But the way we talk we sound like we take pride and think that we are better. But partly may be because I feel offended as if they are pointing finger at me. We Christian don't drink (well, I still do...) We Christian don't go party (well, I don't go often, but I don't mind...) May be because I felt guilty about those and feel offended when someone brought that up. A friend remind me, in the end, everything is between me and God, not from others.

Vacation Planning

We could get stood up by boyfriend, girlfriend, date, friends, doctor, acupuncturist (in my case). How often your parents will bail out on you? I was planning to be a good daughter and go to Toronto with them. But I also want to go to Montreal to visit a friend. So I decided I will leave earlier to visit my friend, then go to Toronto to meet up with my parents. They were very excited cause my mom has been complaining that I haven't traveled with them for so many years. We even worked out the detail when to meet up last night. So I went and confirmed my vacation and detail of the plan today. I even checked my flight and train connection. I was so excited that I didn't do much work at all today. I was busy checking schedule, emailing my friend to confirm detail, bugging my manager for more vacation. In the end, I had it all work out and just waiting for my parents to confirm on their end before I booked my ticket. When I called my mom at home, she told me she can't go anymore!!! I was so shocked to hear that. It was almost not a problem for her to take that vacation since she worked part time only these days. And my dad already had that week off. It is almost perfect plan. Except my mom said her manager asked her to work that week and she said yes. I was ...!!!! How could she bail out on me like this!!! For once I wanted to be good daughter and this is what I got!!! I can't even change my vacation cause if I don't take that week, I won't have anything till end of October and it would be too cold to go anywhere. After making fun of my friend who got ditched by her mom on Mother's Day for sooo long, I can't believe same faith happened on me.

Behave

Sometimes I really don't know how to behave as a Christian. Should I just don't do anything fun? Cause they may be sinful? A friend from church watched the movie The 40 Years Old Virgin and she said it was pretty funny but not suitable for everybody. I told her I have very high tolerant and I probably will find it funny as well. But they also said our pastor may not recommend we watching it because of some of the jokes. Does it mean I shouldn't watch it as well? Even if I don't find the joke offending? Exactly how should I behave as Christian? All uptight and conservative? In my friend's wedding, he put me at one of the rowdier table. I sure had fun that night cause my friends and I went crazy and making so much noise. After that, I wonder if I suit for what called a Christian behavior. It is in the bible that our behavior should glorify God, but what is that say about day to day behavior? What am I supposed to do or not to do? Am I not supposed to joke around? A friend told me that Catholics has a book of accepted behavior. It is a guideline what is allowed or not. May be it is easier to be a Catholics than a Christian. At least I know what is expected from me officially, instead of varying between people.

Love Is...

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres (1 Corinthians 13:4-7)

I am sure a lot of us see this passage before. This is probably the most used passage in a wedding. We talked about church unity today at service. And I was reminded of this passage. This year my fellowship's theme is also love. As this year's leader said, it is easy to love people you like, but hard to love people you don't exactly like. I am always confused on this idea. I could retain the socialize friendly politeness with everybody, but do I really have to love everybody. What is love anyway for everybody? If I say I don't dislike some people, or find some people hard to connect, I would be lying. And if I say I care about everybody, I would be lying too. Some people I just rather not have much interaction with, not that I hate the people, but why force myself to socialize. That is something I would have to do at work if I need to work with people I don't like to stay professional. Do I have to do that after work too? I know I should learn to love everybody as it is God's command to love one another. Does it mean I have to really force myself to bond with everyone? Sound like a lot of tiring effort. Can't we just leave it as if I don't hate the person, I "love" the person? Where can I find such passion for everybody? I know I hold my closer friends more dear to my heart. How can I do that for other people?

Hurricane

I was away the weekend when Katrina hit New Orlean. I vaguely know the impact was huge and thousands of people died, but somehow, I can't feel anything. I felt so distant about the whole incident. Unlike the tsunami happened in Asia last year, I don't even want to read the news about it. Last time I was watching CNN the whole time to find out more details, but this time, I didn't pay attention much even when it showed on TV. I don't understand why I am so cold hearted. May be because it was US. It was supposed to be economically stable enough to take care of themselves. US was the country who gave billions dollar to Asia last year for tsunami. Why would they need other country's help for some small flood? I talked to some friends and they sort of feel the same way. If it happen in some third world country, we would feel more passionate about the situation, but US, nah. Come to think about it, I don't feel much when I heard about war in Iraq too. I am getting used to people dying over there. I know it is a bad thing but I don't know how to tell myself to feel. I am scared may be one day someone die in front of me and I wouldn't care at all. I wonder would that day ever come.

Camping Again?!

Out of town for two weekends in a row made my house a mess. My unpacked luggage is lying everywhere. So I decided to deny my friend's invitation to go camping this weekend and cleaned up my house instead. Besides, I had a wedding to go to on Monday anyway. I may as well take some time to rest. When a friend from church invited the girls to stay over at her place last night, I wasn't very keen cause I kind of miss my bed from the previous weekend. And I was kind of sick of packing again anyway so I decided to just go hang out and go home afterward. But poor me, in the end got cornered and forced to stay overnight unprepared, no sleeping bag, no change of clothes, no nothing. Well, only thing I really need is to take off my contact lens and my friend did have solution to spare me. And she lent me her sleeping bag and pajama. So I end up camping in her house. It wasn't too bad cause I would just go home to fix up myself the next day. Four of us chatted till very late. I don't even know what time it was when I passed out. I always enjoy a good conversation and it sure was fun, despite the last min camping experience.

Bad Typo!

It was indeed another bad day at work for me. A hotfix was supposed to release Monday and it kept slipping and slipping and finally yesterday QA found out that it didn't install on one of the setup at all. I was so frustrated when I heard that. How could they find this out right before we were going to release? But then, the more urgent thing was to fix up the problem. So I found a quick solution last night and hope that it would work fine this morning. But nope, it still didn't install. Since one of the more annoying customers was waiting on this hotfix, support gave us extra pressure on this. But there was only so fast I could work. Good that support didn't bug me, but went bug my manager (and he was not happy at all getting a call every 15 minutes asking for an update, my update was, I am still working on it!!!) I am not very familiar with that part of code and since we are so lack of documentation, it was even harder for me to work on it. I finally got a solution after lunch. So I immediately told release engineer to do a build (which take another freaking 3 hours) I was keeping my finger crossed that it would work. But, but, strike 3 for me! It still didn't work. I was so mad and was so upset. I didn't understand how it would not work. I clearly checked everything carefully. I couldn't test it because it would take me awhile to set up to test. And I didn't even know how to set up. But I was pretty sure I checked my logic correctly. I so wanted to just leave the mess and never come back. Finally, I found a way to let me test the changes. I started playing around and testing which part of my changes failed. In the end, I found out that the installer couldn't detect what type of installation it is and that is why it failed. But...but...that part of code has been around forever and it SHOULD work. So I started staring at the code and suddenly, something jumped out. Someone had a typo in the code. The way we checked the type of set up the installation was to open up a configuration file and looked for the word "cluster". But the code check if we can find the word "cluser". It is missing a "T"! I couldn't believe no one ever use that part of the code!!! It has been there for ages. I couldn't believe I had such bad luck!!

Suicidal Attempt

I ran into my friend while driving to work today. It was very unusual for me to run into people like that. I was driving along Marine Drive at my usual time to go to work (well, that mean I was late again) When I passed Fraser, I saw my friend waiting beside a bus station. I was msning with my friend last night and she said she needed to go to work early. I thought, geez, going to work after 10 was so not early. So I called my friend to tease her about it. She answered and said she just had a car accident and if it was okay for me to drive her to work. I was like..no wonder she was waiting at a bus stop that was not closed to her usual route. Apparently when she was parking her car at work, she was absent minded and stepped on the wrong pedal. Instead of backing up, she went straight ahead and fell down a slope in front of her and crashed into an unused railway. She is physically fine, just a bit startled. But her front bumper fell out. It almost sound like she was trying to suicide but not very successful. Since she was okay, I started laughing at her. She even needed to call a cop cause her car may stuck and the tow truck won't able to get her car out. Of course I run late at work. My manager teased me about it. I have to explain but it almost sound like I made this story up. But it is true! My friend did stupid enough to do that!

Burnt Bun = Me!

After my long weekend, I finally got back to work today. When I run into my coworker, first thing he said was, "wiw, you look like you got some sun this weekend." I was like, "no way, you serious? A@#*$(@#*%)@#*" Given that I already a bit dark to start with, I am sure I must be burnt now. My coworker said, "no no no, it was good, you look healthy." I almost start crying. I know I probably would catch some sun on the weekend, but I already extra careful and pile on sunscreen like crazy. I thought I didn't get that dark. Don't get me wrong. I love having tanned skin. But I also have horrible experience attending wedding and I am the darkest asian girl. I look like Philipino at my friend's wedding. I didn't know I was that dark until I stood next to a group of "white" asian girls. While putting on make up make the other girls look extra white, I look like a mossed chocolate. All my friends laughed after looking at the pictures. They said I definitely look like a slave. It was a tramatized experience. I tried to not repeat it again. This year, I thought I was pretty good. Since I sprained my ankle, I can't play any tournament. So I wasn't in the sun that long most of the time. I guess I am an easy to get tanned person. May be I should buy those asian visor to block the sun. Or carry an umbrella. Errrrrr....

Kayaking

Went on a kayak trip with some friends on the weekend. It is the first time I went on kayak camp so I was a bit nervous. I don't even know how to pack. The capsize practice made me feel a bit better cause I know what to expect in case a kayak flipped. But I still not keen on falling into cold sea water. The first day was a bit windy. So the water is a bit rough. I must look pretty worried so my friend put me in a bigger kayak. So it was pretty stable, though it took more work to move the kayak. But I sure don't mind. I always have a feeling that I don't do much paddling. It was the guy at the back who do all the work. I just sat there and pretend I am paddling as well. Since I don't know what to expect from the trip, I thought it would be like backcountry camping. We would paddle to some island with nothing on it and camp there. Apparently I was wrong. The campsite we went to is pretty develop. Well, at least it has fresh water and a toilet (come on, of course not a flush toilet). But having fresh water is already out of our expectation. Only thing we worry about is water supply on kayak trip and half of our gear is water tank. Another thing I worried about is I have to hold my bladder for 6 hours. I thought we would paddle for so long that my bladder would explode. Worried about going washroom, I may end up dehydrating myself or having a sun stroke. Good that we usually paddle for 2-3 hours and we would land on and island. I just had to make sure I don't dehydrate myself. This time I don't need to share tent with anyone. It was awesome. I could roll around without worrying waking up people. I can throw all my stuff around and as messy in the tent as I want. I sure had fun this trip.

Fooooooood~~~~~

Other than work is sucky as usual, today is definitely a good day for my stomach. I started off wanting to eat scone for breakfast. So I woke up extra early to go to a bakery around Kitsilano to pick up a scone. Though I was super hungry, I resisted to pick up the crappy muffin from Starbucks. When I finally arrived at the bakery, I found out they have waffle with different filling. There are apple custard, peach and cream and some other I forgot. I stood there for a long time, stared at the waffle, drooling all over them, and tortured between getting a waffle or scone. When I finally decided to get a waffle, then I have hard time deciding to get apple custard or peach and cream. I bet I must have stood there for 15 minute trying to decide my breakfast. When I finally got my apple custard waffle, it was soooooo goooood. It tasted almost like an apple pie but with waffle as the cover. It is not very sweet but nice. And it is warm. I was happily fed and went to work. Then, we went for lunch at a Hainanese chicken place. This is the place I always went to with my friend when we were in university. I came by the other day and saw the sign that they are closing down the end of this month. So I gather a group today to go there for one last time. Before I sat down, I already know I want to order laksa. It is the only place that I know that used two kind of noodles. I am disappointed that they are closing down. I don't know where else I could find such laksa. But I sure enjoy my lunch. My stomach is so happy that work doesn't seem as bad after.

Fliperty Flip Flip

My friend forced me to go to a capsize practice tonight because of this weekend. We are going kayaking and camping. He wanted to make sure in case my kayak flip, I know what to do. At least I won't panic. I was really not keen on doing this. During all these times I kayak, I basically make sure I won't flip. Now I have to purposedly throw myself into water. That idea somehow doesn't sound very appealing to me. Not to mention I wear contact lens, so I really really really don't like being in water. And Vancouver doesn't have the warmest water to swim in. I was freezing cold last time even in wet suit once. And the idea of being upside down and stuck with the kayak and not able to breath hit the claustrophobia side of me. I almost suffocated from that idea. When it was my turn to practice, I really really want to run away. I know my friend won't force me to get into water (or they could and I will for sure cry) I could feel my body shivering too. In the end, I figure I have to give it a try. So I won't panic when it happened. I must look very worried cause my friends all watching me very closely. I tried to tip my kayak and practiced how to regain balance. When I was least expected, I flipped and fall into the water. I immediately flow out of kayak and my head was out of water. The water was a bit cold but not too bad. But I did have a bit of shock. I even yelled at my friend for talking too much besides me. He could tell I was not impressed swimming in the cold water (oops....I don't remember this happen, he must be dreaming) When I tried to get back on the kayak, it took me several tries to get it. I kept losing balance and almost flipped again. In the end, I did get back to it successfully. The whole flipping was actually kind of fun. Seem like I was always scared by my imagination.

Conflict

A friend just had his stag last weekend. The one that I got invitation to but I couldn't make it because I went away. My friend told me he was very uptight about this whole thing because of his religion. He was afraid the guys may go overboard and it would be against his religious belief. When I organized my friend's stagette, it never cross my mind about it may cross the line. We tried to make sure we plan something that would embarrass the bride-to-be, but she wouldn't be mad and walk away. We still want her to have fun that night. I never even thought about whether my behaviour was appropriate or not. I guess back then it wasn't big issue for me cause I was only a seeker. But even if I think back, if my friend getting married now, I think I would still do her stagette the same way. Some of the girls who were there did mention they didn't behave as Christian. I don't exactly know what is wrong. I guess we shouldn't get drunk. But I didn't exactly got drunk that night. I did get hyper and good buzz. May be we shouldn't be going all wild? But what we plan for her wasn't involved any touching of any kind (cause we were scared that her husband will kill us if find out). We even made sure what she was wearing covered up enough skin (again, don't want to get killed) I don't know how to behave is appropriate as Christian. Does it mean we shouldn't have fun? We should all be uptight and do nothing except bible studying? Are all the rules really from the bible or from us? I am lost now.

Naramata

I think I may start to like Okanagan area. Both trips I went this year were extremely fun. I once again had an awesome trip this time. I actually have pretty high expectation on this trip because I really want to get away. And what could be better than enjoying yourself in the sun and getting wasted? It turned out to be super fun too, though none of us really got drunk. We did go to a bunch of wineries in Naramata area. Problem with impulsive friends, we end up having 5 boxes of wines between 3 of us. Don't even ask how much I spend. So I guess for the next while, all my friends' birthdays, weddings, house warming, dinner party, I am definitely bringing wine as gifts. We were very careful about driving and wine tasting. We thought about walking from winery to winery, but turned out the distance between is pretty far. We wanted to rent a bike, but the only bike store closed down awhile ago. So in the end, we decided to take turn and drive around. But we did pace ourselves to take only sip instead of finishing up the whole glass (I know, I know, wasting free wine! but...I don't want to be drunk and drive) It is always good to travel with friends who liked to eat and would eat a lot. I always don't like eating with people who would get full after two bites, cause it makes me look like a pig. Good that my friends who went this time all like to eat. First day we planned to have a picnic on the beach, so we went pick up a whole bunch of grocery. We went to a farmer market and grabbed some apples and some tzatziki. We then went to the bakery and cheese store recommended by people to pick up bread and pie and cheese. But since we had big breakfast from the place we stayed at, we were not hungry till late. So instead, we had that as dinner at the b&b place instead. Life couldn't be better. The next day, since we were full at breakfast again, my friend and I just had a cheese platter at one of the wineries we visited as snack. Mmmmm...wine and cheese, I don't know if I want to leave the place at all. Even the ride back to Vancouver was nice. My friend and I chatted the whole way. I don't even know I could talk the long. We talked about anything, friends, view on different things, personal lives, it was definitely good bonding. I got to know my friend so much better. I always enjoy a good conversation and it is definitely good way to end my weekend.

Temptation

Talked about temptation and avoiding opposite sex friends. I am going away this weekend to Kelowna with some friends, a guy and a girl. The guy is engaged to another girl who bailed on us last minute. I was all excited about going away (because work sucks! and I need to be away) and I am sure it would be super fun. The plan was to visit a whole bunch of wineries and get drunk. It never really occur to me that may be inappropriate till today. I was talking to some friends from work and when they found out that I am going with an engaged guy and his fiancee is not even coming, they all asked how come she is fine with it. And I still think why not. There is nothing going on between us. I am pretty sure we are like brothers (yes, brothers, not brother/sister). Then later tonight, when I met up with the guy for drink, he told me his fiancee asked where we stayed. The place we stayed at is called Simple Pleasure. I know, I know, it raised more suspicion, but none of us really pay attention to the name. We are simply innocently looking for a cheap b&b place! So his fiancee said (I hope jokingly) so he is going away with two single girls for a weekend, getting wasted and stayed at a place called Simple Pleasure. It was then I start worried if she is upset about this whole trip. I remember another friend once told me his girlfriend won't let him go on trip with another girl alone, not even me who is again like a brother to him. I wonder if my friend's fiancee is okay with this. I sure hope so.